Reaching Beyond Myself
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Not sure what to do??
Today's post is a departure from the March "List" post.
I'm rather troubled over a friend's situation and I'm unsure how (if at all) I should handle it.
So this post is an effort to somewhat vent and get some feedback from fellow believers.
Most of you know that my husband attends a Christian Bible College. He's one of the oldest guys on campus :) It's not uncommon for the "old fogies" to befriend each other.
During the first semester he befriended another "old guy", let's call him "Bob". Now Bob is in his mid-thirties, on his second marriage and is heavily involved in his church. Bob and his wife "Sue" are nice people, we know them on an acquatiance level. I've started becoming friends with "Sue".........OK so there's the history.......
The other day, my hubs and I were driving back from his school and he mentions that he's concerned that Bob is putting himself in a compromising situation with a young girl on campus, "Tina". I asked him to explain what he meant.
He continues to tell me that Bob stays very late on campus to study with this girl and they are inseparable. They have a lot of classes together and they eat and study together. Basically, my hubs said, where there is Bob there is Tina. Hmmmm, not good, in my opinion.
Yesterday, I picked my hubs up again and he told me he had a brief conversation with Bob about a beloved professor on campus. Bob responded with, "he and I are on the outs at the moment" Hmmmmm.
OK, that's odd, since this professor is considered the "cool" prof. He's in his 30s and a big hit at the school. Bob also mentions to my hubs that Tina stays at his house one day of the week because she is homesick........ which means that Bob's wife knows that at least they are friends and she is friends with this girl as well.
Soooooooooo, here's my and hubs assumption.
(it's only an assumption, we don't really know for sure ANYTHING at this point-remember all this info. I've gotten from my hubs. I haven't actually witnessed any of this)
Hubs thinks that this prof. possibly confronted Bob and this is the reason why Bob is mad at the prof. He also thinks that this "friendship" is extremely inappropriate.
When I asked him if they seem to flirt. His answer (now keep in mind my husband is quite oblivious to female flirting but was a BIG flirt in his day) is that yes, she, Tina acts all pouty and enticed by Bob and Bob responds accordingly.
Soooooooo, here's the question I am stuck with:
What, if anything, do I do?
Keep in mind, I've only been over to Bob and Sue's house a couple of times and have talked to Sue on the phone about 3 times. Do I stay out of it? Do I call Sue and ask what's up?
I would like to just stay out of it. BUT,
I think if it were my husband acting in such a way, staying on campus late to "study" with another girl, I WOULD MOST DEFINITELY WANT TO KNOW!!!!!!!!!!
What would you do if you were me?
I'm rather troubled over a friend's situation and I'm unsure how (if at all) I should handle it.
So this post is an effort to somewhat vent and get some feedback from fellow believers.
Most of you know that my husband attends a Christian Bible College. He's one of the oldest guys on campus :) It's not uncommon for the "old fogies" to befriend each other.
During the first semester he befriended another "old guy", let's call him "Bob". Now Bob is in his mid-thirties, on his second marriage and is heavily involved in his church. Bob and his wife "Sue" are nice people, we know them on an acquatiance level. I've started becoming friends with "Sue".........OK so there's the history.......
The other day, my hubs and I were driving back from his school and he mentions that he's concerned that Bob is putting himself in a compromising situation with a young girl on campus, "Tina". I asked him to explain what he meant.
He continues to tell me that Bob stays very late on campus to study with this girl and they are inseparable. They have a lot of classes together and they eat and study together. Basically, my hubs said, where there is Bob there is Tina. Hmmmm, not good, in my opinion.
Yesterday, I picked my hubs up again and he told me he had a brief conversation with Bob about a beloved professor on campus. Bob responded with, "he and I are on the outs at the moment" Hmmmmm.
OK, that's odd, since this professor is considered the "cool" prof. He's in his 30s and a big hit at the school. Bob also mentions to my hubs that Tina stays at his house one day of the week because she is homesick........ which means that Bob's wife knows that at least they are friends and she is friends with this girl as well.
Soooooooooo, here's my and hubs assumption.
(it's only an assumption, we don't really know for sure ANYTHING at this point-remember all this info. I've gotten from my hubs. I haven't actually witnessed any of this)
Hubs thinks that this prof. possibly confronted Bob and this is the reason why Bob is mad at the prof. He also thinks that this "friendship" is extremely inappropriate.
When I asked him if they seem to flirt. His answer (now keep in mind my husband is quite oblivious to female flirting but was a BIG flirt in his day) is that yes, she, Tina acts all pouty and enticed by Bob and Bob responds accordingly.
Soooooooo, here's the question I am stuck with:
What, if anything, do I do?
Keep in mind, I've only been over to Bob and Sue's house a couple of times and have talked to Sue on the phone about 3 times. Do I stay out of it? Do I call Sue and ask what's up?
I would like to just stay out of it. BUT,
I think if it were my husband acting in such a way, staying on campus late to "study" with another girl, I WOULD MOST DEFINITELY WANT TO KNOW!!!!!!!!!!
What would you do if you were me?
Labels: life and input
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Halloween suggestions and general realizations.......
Our household doesn't celebrate Halloween. It's something we choose not to participate in. We don't care if other people do, we just don't.
Well try NOT celebrating Halloween and sending your child to public school. Extremely difficult.
Anyway, I'm looking for some creative fun recipes for "fall" that I can make with my daughter that don't involve witches, ghosts or skeletons.....any suggestions?
In other news:
I was informed this morning that my daughter's favorite parent is her daddy. Sure I admit for a moment I was a bit heartbroken, BUT, growing up without my dad involved in my life makes me appreciate the relationship that my husband and daughter have. Yes I had to swallow my pride and be "ok" with this fact. But on the other side of the fence, I must admit that it makes me thankful that she has a daddy who loves and adores her so much!! So I guess he can win her "favorite" parent of the year award.....for now ;)
Sidenote: my hubs was freaked out when I told him I was polling the general blogging community on various sex questions, so I assured him that I would stop.....poor guy, almost had a heart attack when he heard ....
Well try NOT celebrating Halloween and sending your child to public school. Extremely difficult.
Anyway, I'm looking for some creative fun recipes for "fall" that I can make with my daughter that don't involve witches, ghosts or skeletons.....any suggestions?
In other news:
I was informed this morning that my daughter's favorite parent is her daddy. Sure I admit for a moment I was a bit heartbroken, BUT, growing up without my dad involved in my life makes me appreciate the relationship that my husband and daughter have. Yes I had to swallow my pride and be "ok" with this fact. But on the other side of the fence, I must admit that it makes me thankful that she has a daddy who loves and adores her so much!! So I guess he can win her "favorite" parent of the year award.....for now ;)
Sidenote: my hubs was freaked out when I told him I was polling the general blogging community on various sex questions, so I assured him that I would stop.....poor guy, almost had a heart attack when he heard ....
Labels: life and input
